Going no contact with a narcissistic parent

Going no contact with narcissistic parents can be a difficult and emotionally challenging process.

Here are some common challenges you may face when going no contact with a narcissitic parent:

1. Guilt and self-doubt: It’s common to experience feelings of guilt, self-doubt, and even a sense of obligation towards your parents. Society often emphasizes the importance of family, which can make it harder to cut off contact.

2. Fear of backlash: Narcissistic parents may react negatively to your decision. They may try to guilt-trip, manipulate, or punish you for setting boundaries or going no contact. Anticipating their potential reactions can be stressful and anxiety-inducing.

3. Loss and grief: Going no contact means severing ties with your parents, and this can result in a sense of loss and grief. You may mourn the relationship you wish you had or the parents you deserved, further complicating your emotions.

4. Isolation and judgment: Family dynamics are deeply personal, and not everyone may understand or support your decision. You may face judgment or criticism from others who don’t fully comprehend the challenges you’ve experienced. This can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness.

5. Emotional triggers and healing: Going no contact doesn’t automatically erase the emotional scars caused by narcissistic parents. It takes time and effort to heal from the past trauma, address any lingering effects, and work towards building a healthier future.

To navigate these challenges

– Seek support from trusted friends, therapists, or support groups who understand your situation and can provide validation and guidance.

– Practice self-care and engage in activities that promote healing and self-discovery.

– Journaling, therapy, or other forms of expression can help process your emotions and gain clarity on your decision.

– Set and maintain strong boundaries to protect yourself from potential attempts at manipulation or guilt-tripping.

– Remember that your decision to go no contact is about prioritizing your well-being and mental health.

While it may be challenging, going no contact can be a necessary step towards creating a healthier and happier life for yourself.

Coach nia renee’s no contact story

I have been no contact with my mother since I was 19-20 years old. That is 10 years in the making and it is quite difficult navigating those decisions in the beginning. Of course I wanted to have a relationship with my mother but when she refused to prioritize my physical safety and my mental safety, I had not other choice but to go no contact. She harassed me for several years and made it quite difficult for me to process my emotions. But once I was able to get her hooks out of me, it made my life so much easier. In my brand new self published book, Letters To You, I wrote her a letter, and provided the several attempts at reaching me via email as examples of what her harassment consisted of.

Prioritize your safety and your mental health over the guilt you feel for having to make the decision to go no contact with the very people who were supposed to protect you and love you.

Additional resources

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Coach Nia Renee specializes in abuse recovery, narcissistic abuse recover, and navigating toxic/narcissistic/abusive relationships