July 7. July 7, 1993. That is the date I was supposed to be born. I was supposed to be born on July 7, 1993. But, instead I was born on April 25, 1993. At 0825 on a Sunday morning. I was in an incubator for 26 days post birth legitimately fighting to have a…
This is the hardest thing I think I've been dealing with for a very long time. I have been in EMDR therapy and it has changed my views on a lot of things. The biggest thing I'm currently learning is how to teach people how to love me the way I deserved to be loved.…
As I begin on my dating journey after years of different types of abusive relationships I have learned a lot. While being in therapy working on my PTSD or as I refer to it as PTSI, I have realized a lot. It's very important to set the boundaries and the expectations from the beginning. Whether…
I have spent most of my life going to get the love I never got from you. But instead I went and got the love I did get from you. The men I've chosen. The women I've loved. The people I've had see me for the vulnerable mess that I was. I sought out a…
She Overcame, She shines brightest in the darkness.Image by: Alisha Light Photography Instagram: @alightp They expect women to fold when the pressure is applied too hard. But, what they lack to forget is that when enough pressure is applied a diamond is created. A Queen never folds beyond her circumstances. And a Queen never succumbs…
It's like I checked into rehab. I've completely isolated myself and have focused on me, solely me, since my break up in February. And it is the most liberating feeling in the world. I was speaking with a coworker and we discussed that time apart or time alone is like personal rehabilitation for the mind,…
I used to think arguing back and forth every single day was normal. I used to think that being talked down to was love. I used to think that being pushed to the limit emotionally and to my boundaries physically was normal. I used to think that being cheated on and having to "fight for…
... let's pretend that this time around I get to be the woman. I get to be the one that gets chased. I get to be the one who gets to see what it's like to be led by a man. A real man. Let's pretend that I am the one who gets to hold…
Something I’ve had to teach myself. Being alone this time around, I am so happy. I am trying to find me and making me happy. It’s important, the work you do in your off season. It’s just as important if not even more important than what you do in season. I use this sports reference…
I have intimacy issues. I have safety issues. I spent majority of my previous relationship thinking and believing that I have intimacy issues. And I cannot say that it was a completely wrong thought or a wrong path of thought. But, being told over and over again that I need to work on my intimacy…
